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5 Ways to Love Your Husband


5 Ways to Love Your Husband,Kay Arthur,best friends,bff

No, this post is not about your physical relationship in marriage. Although, that might really help your husband feel encouraged and feel loved. This post is much broader. We are talking about ways you as a wife or mother can strengthen your whole family.

We all know men are told to love their wives as they love themselves and as Christ loved the church. And we have heard that the wife is to respect her husband (Ephesians 5:33). But what about love? Is the wife suppose to love her husband?

Is the wife supposed to love her husband?

While there is no direct command in Scripture, like there is for men, there is a passage that at least implies the wife is to love her husband. In Titus chapter 2 Paul gives a series of instructions for various groups of people within the church. The older men, for example, are to be temperate, dignified, sensible and so on (Titus 2:2). Paul goes on to describe the appropriate attitudes and actions of older women.

Titus 2:3–5

3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good,
4 so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.

Notice that the older women are to encourage the younger women to love their husbands and love their children. That verse should raise a few questions in your mind.

Younger women need to be encouraged to love their husbands and children? Why? Wouldn’t most wives just naturally love their husband and kids? And since the letter is addressing Christians, wouldn’t unconditional love be the norm for anyone filled with the Holy Spirit? Yes, of course.

Hopefully you feel love for your husbands and children most of the time by our modern understanding of love. Although, many young wives and moms probably feel they could use a little help from someone with more experience. And unconditional love is a by-product of being filled with the Spirit. However, what Paul is saying is actually a little different than these ideas.

What does that love look like?

There are several Greek words for love. The one we most commonly think of is agape which we normally think of as unconditional love. This is the love that loves through disappointment and rejection. However the Greek word translated love in Titus 2:4 comes from the root philos.

Philos is the love of a close friend. Sometimes it’s referred to as a brotherly love. For example Philadelphia is the city of brotherly love. Philos is the love of a close friend, the love you feel for someone you want to be around, the love you feel for someone you just like.

What would that kind of love look like in a marriage?

Ask yourself, what does friendship look like? Watch your husband and children. What do they do with their friends?

5 Ways to Love Your Husband

1. Promote common mission, vision, or goals for the family.
Friends usually have common values. As the wife and mother be proactive and develop the values of your family. How can you help them see God’s hand at work around them? What is your family’s mission in life? Goals? Try mission projects the whole family can get involved in such as:

      • feeding the homeless in a local outreach ministry. 
      • providing Christmas presents for the family of single mom who is struggling.
      • support a missionary or a short term mission trip. Lead your family to learn everything they can about the people and the location.

2. Act friendly.
This probably sounds over simplistic. But, are you friendly or antagonistic with your family? Do they dread spending time with you because you are negative and always talking about what’s wrong? Are you friendly? Encouraging? Curious about their day? Or aggravated about your day and all the things THEY did to make it worse?

3. Get interested in the things they are interested in.
Go out and play! Friendships often form along common interests. Most guys are looking for someone they can go out and play with. They are looking for a game. How often have you heard of the football player marrying the cheer leader? He found someone with a common interest, someone who was there when he was out playing. Find out what your husband and kids are interested in and get involved. Go hang out with them. If you can’t or won’t participate in the games or sports, go along, and be the official photographer. Everyone loves to see photos of themselves!

4. Watch their movies once in a while.
A running joke among American men is that they are being forced to watch a chic flick with their wife. They'll say, “The Hallmark channel? What did I do wrong?”
Turn the tables on them and watch shows or movies they are interested in.

5. With your husband, a dynamic physical relationship certainly helps.

Wrapping it up

Paul told Titus to encourage older women to encourage younger women to love their husbands and love their children by being friendly. What is your overall all attitude with your family? Would they see you as friendly? Easy to be with? Easy to talk to? Or would they say you were condemning? Critical? Harsh? Legalistic?

Be fun! Don’t be difficult and self centered. Reach outside yourself and be fun!


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BJ Lawson has been involved with Precept Ministries since 1981 as a student, Trainer, Co-Director of Transform Student Ministries, Author and currently in Social Media. She is passionate about seeing others engage Jesus in Bible study and in life. She loves connecting with people and seeing them connect with God in such a way that He invades every aspect of their life.


I want to love my husband but he has damaged me. He has hurt me and it is hard to get past this. When I look at him I see the mistake I made. We were both married after mutltiple marriages and he has never treated me as a cherished wife. He married me when I was in a bad place in my life and we have never been suited for each other. Pray I can love him as I should
Posted @ Thursday, March 21, 2013 11:11 AM by Christal Bandy
Good stuff
Posted @ Thursday, March 21, 2013 11:38 AM by Amber
Thank you for this realistic encouragement! As a wife and mom for 3 (5 an under), sometimes I loose the "fun" in te midst of responsibility here at home :)
Posted @ Thursday, March 21, 2013 12:16 PM by Ada
To Christal B. I will pray for your marriage. My dh and I have been married for 35 yrs. it has not all been perfect but we have made it through the tough times. I encourage you to forgive past mistakes and move forward. Do not forget but don't hold on to them. These things we do to each other that are hurtful are not worth the many many other things done hourly and daily that are good. Strive to love him first and question not the reason behind it. If he is still present in your marriage, he has stayed for a reason. Sit with him after much prayer and discuss the thing he did that hurt you. CALMY tell him why and how it did. Then ask him for reassurance that it will not happen again. If you are able let him know why you are still in the marriage. And then leave it there. You must decide to let it go. Nothing he can say will change your mind. Be at peace with your decision to stay. And from that point on decide to live in this new marriage. Start fresh from that point. Isn't this what Christ has done for us. Take ownership in your own faults and release yourself from them. Don't let both of your faults defeat what God has joined together. Everything is forgivable. If not then, why did Christ die? He died for all sin, not some ALL. If you can't move on, then let your husband know and release him from this bondage; if he is trying to work at your marriage he is being fruitless if you don't accept his work. He is not staying out of duty, ask him why, you may just like his answer.
Posted @ Thursday, March 21, 2013 12:52 PM by Maesaysdoit
It is difficult to love someone who has hurt you. We understand, and God understands. We would recommend you find a pastor or counselor to talk to who can help you process the pain. There are answers in Christ which will allow you to love even one who is unlovable. There is a Bible study which explains in depth the pain and the freedom found in forgiveness. It might not be the whole answer for you but I believe it will start you in the right direction. When God brought me to a point of forgiving the pain givers in my life it radically changed me and enabled me to love people who were never sorry for the hurt they caused.  
Here is a link to the study if you are interested. ->  
The next post (or maybe two) will be on the issue of forgiveness. I hope they are helpful. 
Yes, Christal we will pray for you.  
[David Lawson, for the Precept Team]
Posted @ Thursday, March 21, 2013 1:08 PM by Precept Team
@ Christal Bandy 
This morning I was driving into work and listening to a message on the radio. The Pastor was talking about the very thing you write about in your post. He said something like when you feel like you can’t love as a spouse, try loving as a friend. He gave the example of Joseph of Mary. He said, now Joseph probably knew what a godly woman Mary was so when she announced she was with child by the Holy Spirit he was probably confused but knew how she was a woman of God. However, he said imagine if a couple today were throwing a Bridal Shower and the woman called her fiancé into another room away from the crowd and told him how much she loved him but she was pregnant by immaculate conception. Most men would go ballistic, not understand, and leave. But if that woman was telling her friends, they would most likely want to support her and pray for her and be there for her in anyway they could. 
My Pastor also just taught on Colossians 3:18-25 this past Sunday. He also discussed how there are seasons in our life when married couples do not want to love/respect their spouses because they feel wronged by them. However, it is important to be obedient to the Lord. Serve your husband as if you are serving the Lord.  
Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus Christal! Dig in deep to God’s word and He can and will give you His peace beyond understanding in any and all circumstances in your life! 
Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you, not as the world gives do I give to you. Do no let your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful. John 14:27 
I am not married, but there are other areas in my life where I am challenged- boss, co-workers, family members and I have to keep looking to God’s wisdom. Ultimately, everything I say and do to others is as if I am saying and doing those things to Jesus.  
God be with you!
Posted @ Thursday, March 21, 2013 1:09 PM by Dawnette
Hi! I continue to seek advice on my marital situation. I have been seperated from my husband for a little over three weeks. We have been married for 4 yrs. He is a pastor, and many times I disagree with his teachings. I feel as if he has been spiritually abusive to the naive, immature congregants.He has used intimidation if they go to another church or function. Over time, I have become very bitter, and angry, because he has called me many unkind names (prostitute, whore, etc.), he has lied about me and gossiped about me to church members. I myself have become physically abusive towards him, because I get so outraged that he would do these things. My husband is a former crack addict, and left me stranded at a bus station shortly after getting married, while he was off in a "backslidden" condition smoking crack with an old female friend. He got up that same Sunday morning and preached. Isn't real agape, sacrificial love willing to love even through such pain and unhealthy conditions?I believe my husband is wounded and damaged, and has never received true love. I believe he subconciously does things to see if someone will love him when he least deserves it. I just feel like I have become unhealthy as a result, and act in a way that I do not like. I am willing for God to help me respond more biblically, if He sees the effort as worth it!
Posted @ Thursday, March 21, 2013 2:16 PM by Kimberly
God does see the effort is worth it! The Trinity is a beautiful example of the covenant relationship between Father, Son and Holy Spirit; unbreakable! Marriage is the same type of covenant.  
We can read in Malachi 2:16 
16 For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with wrong,” says the Lord of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.” 
We know that in this world there are trials and tribulations that may seem completely unbearable to us, but the sufferings we endure are nothing in comparison to what Jesus did for us on the cross. 
Cry out to our God Most High and ask for His healing and restoration in your marriage. He is El Roi, He sees everything that is going on in your life and remember, He will never leave you or forsake you!
Posted @ Thursday, March 21, 2013 3:52 PM by Dawnette
Thank you so much for instilling loving concern into me and my situation/marriage! God bless you!
Posted @ Thursday, March 21, 2013 7:56 PM by Kimberly
The 5 ways to love your husband was great. Love it!
Posted @ Thursday, March 21, 2013 7:58 PM by Shirley
@ Kimberly, my heart hurts for you. I think your estranged husband is still dealing with demons from his past. Will he consider counseling with someone? It is hard for a pastor to find someone to confide in that won't spread the gossip around. But i think he needs to straighten up his life before he tries to minister to others. He is a spiritual bully. My advice would be to seek the Lord and put him into God's hands to "break" him and soften him. He might blame you for everything going south, but you can't go wrong praying, and try to avoid confrontation with him. Do you continue to go to his church?
Posted @ Thursday, March 21, 2013 9:14 PM by Ruth
I am awed by your comments. Christal and Kimberly I am amazed at your honestly and courage. The pain you feel must be overwhelming. At the same time I am amazed at the other ladies coming alongside and encouraging you. When they say they are praying, I really believe they are.  
Here at Precept a number of us will pray for you two also.  
Everyone, thank you for letting me see the body of Christ at work. This looks a little like the way church ought to be.  
Posted @ Friday, March 22, 2013 8:26 AM by Precept Team
Kimberly, you need to see a professional Christian counselor who will help you process the pain and rejection. I would contact other churches in the area and find someone outside of your church to talk with.  
[David Lawson, the Precept Team]
Posted @ Friday, March 22, 2013 8:31 AM by Precept Team
@Ruth and Precept team, 
Thank you so much for caring about me and my situation. I had to walk away because my marriage and the ministry was/is extremely unhealthy, and I did not want to be a contributing factor to that unhealthy environment. I see my error in becoming so angry...I know this is not pleasing to God. I always, always question my own actions and how I could respond better. One counselor told me that I have the typical "victim" mentality..."if I said this different", "if I just submit, "if I just agree". I don't know, but God does, and I thank Him for being with me despite it all!My husband is willing to go to counseling, but in the back of my mind I always feel like I am being set up for more "slop" from satan. Thank you for your prayers and loving support! God bless you!
Posted @ Friday, March 22, 2013 9:07 AM by Kimberly
Kimberly, I agree with all the comments you have been given here. I am praying for you and for him and the church, Satan has a hold and God can break it. Please get someone who can listen and direct you personally on this.  
Chrystal, I am praying for the peace in your marriage you need.
Posted @ Friday, March 22, 2013 11:37 AM by dianna
Thank you so much and God bless you Diana, and every person here who has been a blessing to me! You have no idea how much I cherish your words of encouragement and advice. One of the things that has been so hard is the isolation and not having anyone nearby to talk to because of wanting to protect my husband. I left everything and everyone to be with him in his hometown. I do not have any family or friends locally. Please pray that I have a strong spiritual and social support system, should I return! God bless each and every one of you! Love and prayers for each of you!
Posted @ Friday, March 22, 2013 7:15 PM by Kimberly
I have read your comments for the first time, on facebook. Please keep your blog on my home page of facebook. I dont usually read my e mails from my email address. Thank you all so much! Blessings to you all! :)
Posted @ Saturday, March 23, 2013 7:23 AM by Glenna Huff
The article on ways to love your husband is really great. I failed in many of these areas. My husband of 29 years has filed for divorce. We have been separated for 3 months and just less than a month after we separated he filed for the divorce. He is bipolar and manic. He has also aleinated our adult children. He wants no reconciliation. I have admitted to him the mistakes I have made but he says he is better off without me. He was diagnosed bipolar in 2007 and our marriage has struggled since then. I believe marriage is to be for life according to Gods word but he doesn't see that way. Its just easier to leave he feels than to stay and work things out with the Lords help. Please pray for my marriage. Things are moving quickly in the divorce proceeding because that is what my husband wants--to just get it over.
Posted @ Saturday, March 23, 2013 8:44 AM by Martha
Christal,Kimberly,and Martha. I will pray for all of you and for your marriages to be restored. Don't give up,fight hard. You let satan know that he can NOT have yourmarriages,that you will fight. My marriage has been restored. My husband had a major moment of weakness after working in surroundings that amarried man really shouldn't be for a little extra money but it was a bad decision on both our parts. We were stressedout about our finances and job situation and he just caved and left. I was so shocked because we were best friends and we've been together for almost8 years and married for almost five years! We have two kids so it was scary for me because I'm a stay home mom. The way he talked for that whole week he was done,he said he felt differently but all I could hear were satan's lies that he was believing My mom gave me her copy of her Power of A Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian and I was blown away. I prayed for him everyday through the prayers she had in her book and i started working on myself and allowing God to change me as well. He came back and it's been almost three weeks since we reunited. We're seeing a counselor from our church and I'm still praying everyday because it's so powerful. God has amazing plans for all of you there is hope with God. Let Him comfort and guide you! I will pray hard. Love your sister in Christ:-) 
Posted @ Saturday, March 23, 2013 9:34 AM by Holly
Hi I am married and I have a son, David.I just wanted to thank you guys for this article and all your work, it was really a great help to me to read it through today,as I was thinking of some ways to build my marriage. I have read the book Building a Marriage that Really Works, and I liked it so much. Thank you Kay,and David. I am looking forward to have it in my library.
Posted @ Saturday, March 23, 2013 10:08 AM by Aferdita
love this article very informative!
Posted @ Saturday, March 23, 2013 1:34 PM by brenda
is it ever okay to divorce your husband? I have been hurt by him so much but cannot seem to leave. I try he tries and then we battle and communications again is broken. I am tired of hurting and feeling alone in this marriage.
Posted @ Tuesday, March 26, 2013 3:08 PM by src
To src: I don't think anyone here will ever suggest a divorce. Having said that, this site is for those looking for daily guidance for life, love and happiness, but even more than that looking to live a life for God. Unless you are dealing with infedelity or abuse You probably are dealing with selfishness. When people refuse to hear each other and refuse to change their own actions all that is left is selfishness. Try to push through the feeling of being right over wrong, and do not react to his actions even when you may feel as though you need to respond in a negative way. (I would be saying the same thing to him) Use your words carefully. Try to change just one thing in or of yourself that you know you do and or, you've done that causes irritation. Make an effort each day to do one thing for him that you know he will enjoy or bring a smile to his face. (Again I would be saying the same things to him) Take time to notice something he does that helped you or the family. Begin again to think of ways to make each other smile. You know I hear many women say, "I feel like I'm on auto pilot, no one thanks me, no one notices if I do something different, no one says they enjoyed what I did; so why should I care". Well, you are doing things for the wrong reason. Do everything as if you are doing them for The Lord. I hear men say the same thing. Maybe every weekend he does the yard, he takes the kids to sports games and practices, he maybe picks up the cleaning on the way home or some groceries. I know, you're thinking, well I do that too. But that's my point. Begin to thank each other for all those things, it's 2words, Thank You. Stop taking each other for granted and start appreciating the little things. Just do it. Don't expect your spouse to do it too. Just do it because you know you should. Soon enough they will begin doing it too. But still even if they never do you can know you are doing the right thing. I believe you will see a change in your home and in both of your hearts.
Posted @ Wednesday, March 27, 2013 5:43 PM by maesaysdoit
@ src & maesaysdoit...... you said it so well, maesaysdoit! I know a couple who broke up many years ago. She fasted on only water for 1 week, and after that they got back together and have been happily married ever since. You can't twist God's arm by fasting, but it might help to get you in tune with what God wants to do......I have enjoyed all the posts, such godly wisdom displayed.
Posted @ Wednesday, March 27, 2013 7:47 PM by Ruth
You ladies have really encouraged me. Thanks for all of the sound advice. God Bless you all
Posted @ Wednesday, March 27, 2013 10:14 PM by Christal
Christal and src- the key to remember is that God is ever present. He is always ready to hear your cries. Even more He is ready to hear a joyful cry when things are going well too. If you take time to focus on the joyful moments and thank God for them, you will be able to see more of them. Love is a verb. Love calls for action. This world has cheapened the truth of love. People say "I love this, I love love that, Don't you love it!, I just love those shoes" . Love is lost in a world that has forgotten what love did for them. Take a moment to thank The Lord for His love, for His action of love, for dying for you. Then begin to put love in action in your own home. Love calls for sacrifice at times. Sacrifice your own needs for a time of renewal in your marriage. (I am speaking to both men and women) if you both love sacrificialy you will see a change. God loved us this way and we have life that will last forever. This life on earth is a speck of time in comparison with eternity, make it worth His sacrifice. Love one another, pressed down, shaken together and overflowing so that He will be glorified. Love is action. All the little things count. Read the book 5 Love Languages and learn how you and your spouse recieve love and the way you create love. Then take action. I pray God reaches you in your quiet moments and touches you and you learn His way of love.
Posted @ Wednesday, March 27, 2013 10:49 PM by maesaysdoit
My marriage is a mess. My husband sees that he does no wrong. When I seek outside help from other Christians. I am told he has a controlling, selfish spirit. I have given up all my church serving. We only go to church on Sunday morning which is the way he thinks it should be.(I am use to helping serve in several areas and attending most services. )I no longer work outside the home at his request. He is retired and feels that I don't need to work, have a car or do I need any money unless he approves. Most of the time I can handle the situation because I know he loves me but other times I feel worthless and even wonder how Jesus feels about this situation. He never had a daddy and was never a dad to his children or mine-we have no children together as we married later in life. He feels that men should have dominion over women. He puts women down and blames Eve for all men's problems. The older he gets the worse the problem becomes but as long as everything goes his way he sees nothing wrong.
Posted @ Tuesday, June 25, 2013 11:34 AM by Laura
As much as it hurts to read your comments, and as much as we would all like to do something to relieve the pain you are in, you know that our human efforts will simply not bring peace to your broken heart. We hurt for you and with you.  
But, we also encourage you to keep trusting God. He is at work and regardless of what it looks like now, He will accomplish His purpose in your life. His ways are not our ways, and often we would not willingly choose His path to righteousness. But God loves you and will use every pain, every sorrow, every disappointment for your good.  
People are watching how you respond in this marriage and they are learning about our Father by watching His child.  
As you and fast don’t pray for relief, pray for God’s name to be glorified in your marriage and in your life.  
I would also recommend the book, “As Silver Refined” as a great Bible study for someone in your situation.  
This link should take you there >
Posted @ Tuesday, June 25, 2013 2:16 PM by Precept Team
Laura, while I agree with most of what others are saying here; I do want to assure you that our Lord, while He would want your marriage to survive this time, He has not called any woman to martyr herself for a man who is not treating her with love and respect, as our Lord loves the church. You will not shine with our Father's glory because you stayed in a house in which the man thinks that to keep a woman 'in her place' is a loving respectful show of how God loves. While I am not suggesting divorce, I would say that you need not stay in the same home with him. If you make a choice to work you should. You should try to reconcile your differences, but not at the cost of losing love, honor and respect for yourself. You will not help anyone else see God's love, if you are not happy and recieving a love example from what should be your source of human companionship. For your husband to treat you as someone who has no rights, is his way of showing how he thinks he is dominant over you without regard to your own needs and wants, is selfish and is arogant. Again, not what God calls the marriage covenant.  
I repeat the reconciliation is best, but in the meantime fall on your knees and pray to know what to do. But know that no one is called to die to self for another person - but to God. To die inside because you want to passively endure a marriage where you are not respected as a partner is a far more painful way to exist. I would encourage you to go to counseling by yourself or with your husband if you can get him there. But for sure you need to be heard. While the suggested reading is helpful I would rather you get counseling to learn ways to communicate your real feelings about your life with your husband.
Posted @ Tuesday, June 25, 2013 10:42 PM by maesaysdoit
Thanks for the article I agree with it all. I have a question. How does one do the things suggested (e.g., do the things he loves) when the spouse doesn't do things that honor God and has no desire?
Posted @ Monday, July 08, 2013 5:52 PM by Anne Marie
Anne Marie,  
First, I am sorry it took so long to respond.  
If your husband doesn't honor God and has no desire to honor God then you have a mission field right in your home. The goal in evangelism/missions is not behavior modification, God does that after they are born again. The goal is to love them until they see Christ in your life. Your approach should be to spend time with, encourage, be a friend to, and invest in the life of your spouse. 
If they are not a believer then the only world they have is this place. Make it a nice place for them to be. Let God be the one who brings conviction as He sees fit - not you. It is the kindness of God that leads us to repentance. So be kind and friendly and loving.  
Now, a caution. We are not suggesting you engage in unrighteous activities with him. But, be careful how you define those. Keep your definition of sin Biblical, not cultural. You must walk the line of not doing things which would be sins, and not setting yourself up as “holier than thou”. By honoring the covenant, loving him, you are opening the door for God to act and you are honoring God. [David Lawson, Precept Team] 
Posted @ Friday, July 12, 2013 10:30 AM by Precept Team
David, Thank you so much for your encouragment. That is what I'm trying to do. I'm trying to love him as God does. When he does things that aren't right (biblically), I excuse myself and pray that God would stop his rebellious heart and allow him the privilege to honor/glorify the LORD with his life. It's difficult and often a lonely road. Praise God He is with us always and hears our every prayer. Praise Him He answers through His Word. His answer is perfect in every way (note, I didn't say easy). Thanks again! God Bless!
Posted @ Friday, July 12, 2013 10:57 AM by Anne Marie
I agree, it is not easy! But, God loves you and sees your ministry of loving evangelism to your husband as your service in the kingdom. You are honoring your king by loving your husband.  
I am hopeful the others in this list have seen your comment and will be praying for you also.  
Posted @ Friday, July 12, 2013 11:16 AM by Precept Team
will like to receive all the comment. very encouraging.
Posted @ Monday, February 10, 2014 5:31 AM by Prisca
I understand. We've been married 28 yrs and I've recently found the name of what I deal with. My husband is extremely passive aggressive. Before marriage, the Lord encouraged me that I really was to marry this man and to remember this fact. I had no idea what was to come. It has been an incredibly difficult marriage. The only help I've ever seen encourages divorce, but I knew that's not an option. 10 yrs ago, I realized my husband really isn't a believer. It's hard to notice all the clues when you are close to the person. I know he WILL be saved. God has given many scripture promises. Just this morning, I saw a very small glimmer of hope, after living a week of hellishness. God is good and I know my husband WILL be saved! I am very thankful to my Lord. I found a book for CHRISTIAN women dealing with passive aggressive husbands/fathers. I wish Precept would address this. Maybe you have and I just don't know it! I believe our churches are full of women like me, hiding our shame because we have such hateful husbands.
Posted @ Saturday, February 22, 2014 8:16 AM by a teacher
Please email me this page, blog, etc? "5 ways to love your husband"
Posted @ Saturday, February 22, 2014 8:46 AM by Paulette Rene
Thought you might be interested in this. I just e-mailed it to myself to read, too.
Posted @ Saturday, February 22, 2014 10:18 AM by Leah
I am pray
Posted @ Saturday, February 22, 2014 10:23 AM by Laura
This is true.. I am married to my husband for 36 yrs now and just being his best friend we get along.. The sparks we had long time ago , I mean the physical attraction is gone but him my best friend , same goals. But the best way is put God as the center of our relationship. Fear of God .. That's the best way to make our relationship stay intact..
Posted @ Saturday, February 22, 2014 11:29 AM by Haydee
I and my husband do not walk with God together. He has given up on living the Christian life. (Which has been a pattern since our ten years of marriage for him to be for it then going but getting discouraged with church congregation and quitting - we are at our third church now not meeting his needs or using his talents) I am in my relationship with thd Lord over 5 years now and getting discouraged myself and not sure what go do. I take our daughter to church and live my own faith b and try to teach her but at the end of the day he and I have two separate lifestyles.
Posted @ Saturday, February 22, 2014 2:00 PM by Tammy
You have mentioned the best points to keep a husband wife relationship healthy till entire life. Nice thoughts.
Posted @ Thursday, March 06, 2014 2:54 AM by Omkar Baba
Please pray for my marriage? I feel that it is dead. The 28th was our 36th anniversary. I asked him if he loved me when we had been married 24 years. He told me that you could tell someone that to much. So I decided then that I would not tell him anymore unless he told me. 12 years have went by with out hearing those words. I just don't care anymore if he loves me or not. It isn't that I don't love or care about him. But since we have been married I never hear, you are pretty, or I love you, nothing. He is a man of God but has come down with a illness that keeps us out of church. I don't want anyone else, I just want to feel loved and be loved. The only one that shows me true love is my 4 year old grandson. He tells me over and over that I love you Mamaw. If a little child can say it, why can't a husband. Please pray and I would love to get back in church, I told that I would like to go to Wed. night service and he didn't get the car out for me so that I could go. Please help me by praying. Thank you OLG
Posted @ Tuesday, April 29, 2014 5:23 PM by OLG
Please pray for healing and restoration of my marriage relationship and my husband's relationship with our 2 daughters. Thank you very much.
Posted @ Wednesday, June 18, 2014 1:36 PM by Susan Werk
Reading these comments is so humbling and encouraging to me! Having been married, divorced, each in second marriages, divorced, back together and rough last few years and not currently together, it has definitely & still is very difficult at times to say the least! I am believing God for a strong foundation for rebuilding of our lives, of course my desire is for us together! That said, I trust that Our Father's way & time are best & if & he has, gotten us through before & brings us together no doubt He can again! My struggle is will He? And is it best for us to get back together or not! We've both had our struggles with infidelity issues & insecurities among others! I'm trying to keep hold that "He who began a good work within you will see it through" & that God is up to "fixing" all because that's who He is & because He loves us each so much! Besides the 'enemy' wouldn't be so intent on destroying if it wasn't 'ordained' by God Himself! As for now & until, I just allow Christ to be my husbandman, & pray if/when we are together again, all is as it should be! God bless us all!
Posted @ Sunday, June 29, 2014 2:34 AM by ginger
I have discovered some teaching that has transformed my life and my marriage. It's from the book "How We Love" by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. It explores how we each have an intimacy imprint from our family of origin that we bring into marriage. We even choose the person we do because of what we experienced growing up. Often times, we get into a dysfunctional dance where we have the same type of argument over and over. This teaches you how to identify your love style and what triggers the dysfunction in order to move toward health and true intimacy. You can check out the website: - There are free resources there. Another great resource is which is $10 a month but has some great teaching videos. My marriage of 28 years is on the road to recovery. I hope this will offer you some tools to heal the wounds in you and your husband in order to move toward health. This attachment theory as applied to marriage is also the key to our addictions -- our chosen method to numb our emotions. Transforming truth. 
Posted @ Thursday, August 07, 2014 8:44 AM by Darlene Tullos
Thank you for sharing your mssg. I can related to Kimberly post. I was enaged to a man who I thought has the heart for God and that was what I was looking for, man of God, serving the true God and to fulfill His purpose . To make the story short; later into the relationship he started to disappeared; no calls or text for 2-3 days a time. I thought there was other women in between us and still until this day I still think there is. He is an addicts for over three decades, his words are sweet to the soul, great looking man with integrity when he speaks but I realize he used God and christian to cover his own tracks. He lied n decrwomen , he
Posted @ Saturday, August 16, 2014 9:28 AM by Mash
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