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Gay marriage? How does the Bible help you decide?


When President Obama announced on May 9th he was in favor same sex marriage he became the most prominent in a long list of politicians who have publically declared their support for gay marriage. He also fueled the growing debate on the issue. It seems a significant factor in the President’s decision was his empathy for couples who are in same sex relationships.

I understand his position. I also have friends who are gay and who have been in committed same sex relationships.  However, as a Christian my decisions can never be based on my feelings or sympathies.

Charles Krauthammer, Opinion Writer for the Washington Post, wrote a very interesting article about the President’s announcement in which he challenged the logic behind the President’s position. But I want to take the discussion beyond feelings or logic to conviction.

There is really only one opinion that matters and that is God’s. What does God say about sex and marriage? Once we hear His word on the subject, then our feelings about it or our ability to present a logical argument for or against it are irrelevant. God and His Word are true. Our convictions must be based on the Scripture.

God created us, male and female. God created the institution of marriage, ordained marriage, and even arranged the first marriage. As its designer He has the right to define its limits. God is not even slightly ambiguous about homosexuality in the Word. It is wrong, it is a sin. In God’s design the sexual relationship is to be between a man and woman within marriage. Every other sexual relationship is a sin.

There are more passages of Scripture than we could ever cover in a blog post, but let me suggest a couple.

  • Leviticus 18-20.
  • Specifically Leviticus 18:22 and 20: 13
  • Romans 1:18-32
  • 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

It is difficult to express in a post, and I wish I could share this face to face with you because I want you to hear my heart on this and I am afraid this discussion often deteriorates in to hateful rhetoric. I do not hate those of you who identify themselves as gay or are in a same sex relationship. Far from it. But, I must stand on Scripture. God is the final authority, not me.

Wrapping it up

If you happen to read this and you are in an inappropriate relationship, stop. Place your trust in the Lord and let Him be your fulfillment. Christianity is a surrender relationship, it is not about negotiating. Surrender your life, even your sex life to Him.

If you are a conservative who is against same sex marriage, remember that there are a lot of hurting people out there. We should, we must speak the truth, but do it in love. Remember, Jesus commanded us to love our God, love our neighbors, and even love enemies. (Matthew 5:44, 22:34-40) So, when you take a stand, do it gently, with love and tenderness. Jesus reserved His harshness for the extremely religious, the Pharisees. With the Samaritan woman He was honest, but gentle.

We have a resource which will be an incredible tool for sorting out what God says about sex and what the world says. To order your own copy of The Truth About Sex follow the link below.



This is a very timely post, as our family is dealing with this very issue. My counsel to my family is the same as your post! Thanks for posting on such a heated topic. The truth needs to be available to those who would take the time and listen.
Posted @ Friday, May 25, 2012 3:01 PM by Patti
Recently on FB an email was distributed in response to this debate where a leader had also used the scriptures to point out how God saw homosexuality. This particular email pointed out how if we apply certain Levitical laws and other scriptures, then surely we should apply all? I'm a believer though, so please expand on this.
Posted @ Friday, May 25, 2012 5:02 PM by Romny
It is thus tyoe of truth we need today and one of the many reasons I love and support this ministry. 
Posted @ Friday, May 25, 2012 6:12 PM by Denise Velarde
Amen, always remember to speak the truth in love.
Posted @ Saturday, May 26, 2012 5:11 PM by Chasidy
Jesus defines a person not attracted to the same sex or not meant to marry as a Eunuch -- Matthew 19:12 
Daniel the prophet is probably the best example of a eunuch in the bible that was a eunuch from his youth. 
Some people are born as eun...uchs, and unfortunately our society only has 3 options for them -- stay in the closet or go in LGBT community, and now same-sex marriage. However, none of those options are acceptable to God or beneficial for the person... 
Society perverts the inherent brotherly or sisterly love that a eunuch (or "G/L" person) is born with that is designed to enhance their ability to minister/serve God and only offers a fleshly explanation for their feelings... Paul says that we must live after the spirit and not the flesh to please God. (Romans 8:4-14) 
If our society and leaders were more grounded in Christ they would already have an established infrastructure for these special individuals in the body of Christ just like Daniel, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego instead of a quick "fix" founded in the flesh.
Posted @ Saturday, May 26, 2012 5:44 PM by Dwight Maxwell
Thoughtfully written and very timely. As Christians we have to remember two very important things. One of them is that marriage is sacred. Yet more and more, sex is just something that dating couples do and living together before marriage is a matter of course - with Christians! And divorce? Every time we give up on a marriage we're lowering its value for the rest of the world. We need to get marriage back on a pedestal between ourselves, before we can start offering advice to others. The other thing is that non-Christians are not bound to our Christian morals. Would that they were, but waving a Bible at people who see it as a collection of ancient myths and fables is not very convincing.
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 9:26 AM by Jane Sadek
I don't question the scriptures in regards to homosexuality. What I do question is how we (as Christians) can pick and choose which scriptures we consider applicable. Leviticus also states that a woman should be considered unclean and sent away from her family when she is having her period. We don't do that today because it's considered an archaic scripture. I understand why, it's just that I get nervous when we find it okay to embrace some scriptures over others, especially when it's at the exclusion of so many people.
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 9:28 AM by Guest
Regarding those questioning how to handle the Levitical laws (i.e. if we follow one, shouldn't we follow them all or similar questions), the thing I'm always reminded of regarding homosexuality is that the New Testament passages mentioned here still are clear regarding how God views it, regardless of what one thinks about whether all the Levitical laws are still applicable since Christ came. Still, I'd be interested to hear other thoughts on this topic...
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 10:01 AM by Laurie
Way to go Kay!! I think what you said is so true!! Too much hatred but we do need to see what the Bible says, and it is wrong. But we still need to show love!
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 10:09 AM by trudy
Well said, Kay! God's word is the final answer. Love covers a multitude of sins. Our attitude must be love.
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 10:20 AM by linda david
I so agree, we need to stand on the word of our God almighty! And also show compassion and love! If we are troubled by family or friends (like I am) who are in these kinds of relationships we need to make it a goal to pray without ceases for them! God is love!
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 10:25 AM by pamela nettles
But what some see as hatred isn't toward those living against what God's Word says on the subject of sin. It is against the sin itself and would be the same toward murder and other blatant, in your face sin(s). When going against God's Word is forced on those who don't agree, the "hatred" is aimed at the acceptance of the sin, not the sinner! There is a huge difference and if we don't hate the sin enough to stand against it, we are accepting the "change" of God's Word without fighting for the truth of it. This is not a political fight as much as it is a cultural fight! And a fight for the future of our nation!
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 10:28 AM by Beverly Alfonso
I am always thankful to Kay for clarifying issues to me. Our society is so secular, boundries often fade. A gentle loving explanation is the way to go!
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 10:31 AM by
To Dwight Maxwell, Daniel, Shadrach, Meshach and Abendego were not eunuchs because they were gay. Eunichs were male slaves and servants who had their testacles removed when young so they never developed any sexual urges. When Paul talked about some are natural eunichs, he was talking about men who made a decision to not marry or have sexual relations with anybody, not that they were homosexuals. Paul, himself took a vow of chastity, not because of homosexuality, but so he could give over his right to marry and devote all his time to God and his work for God in spreading the Gospel of salvation through Jesus Christ. 
Others who talk about the Levitacle laws, read the new testament writings on not just homosexuals, but all sin, for God hates ALL sins not just the gay/lesbians and bisexuals. 
"9 Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God." 1 Cor 6:9-11, notice that some of rhem were immoral in many ways, but God loved them enough to save them and wash them clean from their sins and admonishes them to stay clean.
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 10:47 AM by Pearl Watson
I remember reading once about those who challenge the Levitical laws and compare them to today's standards. It was pointed out that there were different types of law--intrinsic laws (i.e. law of gravity), civil law, ceremonial law (Jewish celebrations), situational law (i.e. manna in the desert, etc.)-which may change with changing times. But moral laws (sexual behavior) are unchanging.
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 10:54 AM by Sandy Parkhill
Our family has been tossed into this sea as my 25 year old daughter has decided to follow a lesbian lifestyles. it has literally torn our family apart as adult kids congratulate her, and I, a single mom, am left to biblically deal with a 12 year old who used to hold this daughter up as a role model. It has been very sad for us for the last months. That 25 year old daughter will not even comunicate with me in any way, and that is where the real heartache lies....
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 11:07 AM by Debi
Pearl, please re-read the scriptures. Your post has many errors... Start by reading Matthew 19:3-12.  
Jesus directly taught his disciples about this subject... 
Eunuchs are not gay or homosexual as society defines them... They are just people born not attracted to the opposite sex... This does not imply that they are born to have sex with the same sex. Jesus specifically says that some are born NOT to marry (also meaning not to have any sexual intercourse)... 
Read Matthew 19, and you will see what you wrote should be revised... 
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 11:12 AM by Dwight Maxwell
This is a very touchy subject. I have a loved one who is gay, came out of the closet after his wife died two years. When he told the family, we already knew he was gay from years of growing up. But he was very devoted to his late wife for 24 years. We told hom we do not believe in that life type, but you are still my brother and I'm going to love you even more and leave the rest up to God. I'm not the one to judge, God is. We are to hate the sin, but LOVE the sinner. Thanks for sharing Kay................God bless you Ministry................KG
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 11:49 AM by Kay Grandgeorge
Even now I fall short, however His love remains as He deals with any subject that relates to His will and holiness. It doesn't matter what Obama says. It's Gods word that does not return void.
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 12:00 PM by Mark
I really did respect our President until he stood up for gay mariage, now I dont know how to vote, I am an ex mormon, and knowing that they believe that they can earn their way to become a god and to rule their own planet is very very scarey, I quess I will just vote for Ron Paul if possible--May be Jesus will return for us first before election day-- beam me up Lord :D 
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 12:27 PM by karen bennett ketterer
Responding in love can be as simple as a spanking for improper behavior or for the breaking of a rule/ guideline set forth by the parent. Who determines whether or not you get punished for your actions? You do!! Your behavior/ actions determine if you get are dealt consequences. If you behave and abide in what has been set out for you, then no recourse is necessary. Certainly we hate the sin and love the sinner, but what get me is when the sinner tries to get me to believe the lie they have convinced themselves of in order to do only what they want and justify their behavior as "love" when it is obviously not. Again, it is not that they are lying to me, it is that they are lying to themselves over and over again. They are trapped by their free will to choose which master they will serve, a life disregarding and defying truth for the sake of their fleshy needs, wants and desires. "You can disobey the truth, disregard the truth or disbelieve the truth, but that doesn't make it UNTRUE." If only those persons would allow their eyes, ears and minds to be open to the Truth. God loves you, Jesus is waiting for you with open arms to clothe you in His Righteousness and take you before the Father in Heaven and be seen as a child of God free from the stain and Wrath of God against sin. To be Wholly, Fully Deeply loved in the purest Love, God's Love.
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 2:36 PM by Robert C.
quess I will just vote for Ron Paul if possible--May be Jesus will return for us first before election day-- beam me up Lord :D  
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 12:27 PM by karen bennett ketterer  
Great option Karen.. Vote Ron Paul!! He is still running and are only choice for America!  
Being of good cheer, 
Perky D
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 6:44 PM by Perky D
I agree with this article. We are to hate the sin, but love the sinner! 
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 6:55 PM by Nancy Osborn
Karen, sadly a vote for Ron Paul is just another vote for Obama... Do the research and you will find that Obama is leading us down a path of secularism and slowly trying to take away our religious freedoms and ease us into a more socialistic society.. God gives to some more earthly treasures but Obama wants to change it.. As for marriage, Romney believes in it's sanctity and I do believe his morals will lead and guide him. We should be praying for him.
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 7:20 PM by Annette
For they mouth empty, boastful words and, by appealing to the lustful desires of the flesh, they entice people who are just escaping from those who live in error. 19 They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of depravity—for “people are slaves to whatever has mastered them ---This is from 2 Peter 2 it is very interesting in light of the presidents comments promising freedom but receiving slavery to sin.
Posted @ Monday, May 28, 2012 9:37 PM by Don
Annette is correct. We really only have two options because to vote for Ron Paul is to vote for Obama. 
One issue we have is that whenever we try to speak out about the sin, we are often wrongfully accused of hating the sinner, when we don't. Another thing to be cautious about is the current bullying campaign. Don't misunderstand...I hate bullying, but we all know legislation against it will not work and even worse, I believe one hidden agenda is to shut our mouths so that we can't even say that homosexuality is a sin. Be very cautious in this area. I read some months ago that one boy got into trouble simply by saying that homosexuality was a sin, and if I recall, he wasn't even saying it to a kid who was homosexual. He wasn't harassing or bullying anyone. Satan will work in ways like this to silence our voices. We just have to be very careful in areas like this. The only thing that will ever stop bullying is to get our families in America back in church and this nation believing in God's value system again! 
Posted @ Tuesday, May 29, 2012 7:24 AM by Shirley
God has the last word!Always!!!
Posted @ Tuesday, May 29, 2012 8:17 AM by Vicky
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